Intuitive Eating for Every Chapter of a Woman’s Life
- Laura
- Oct 3
- 9 min read
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If you Google 'Intuitive Eating', there are probably over a million results showing what it is, its principles, its benefits, why it works, why it doesn't work and much more. I even wrote myself a blog post a while ago about what Intuitive Eating is and its 10 principles. However, this time I wanted to focus on intuitive eating for every chapter of a woman's life.
I've worked with women from 16 to 67 years old, and Intuitive Eating is always my number one tool to support them. It's a very comprehensive framework that serves as a path to cultivate a connection with your body and trust in yourself around food, no matter the stage of life.
Our bodies constantly change throughout the years: hormones shift, energy levels rise and fall, and each chapter of our lives brings us new needs. The purpose of Intuitive Eating is to help you cultivate self-trust and self-compassion to deal with these changes, and ultimately, create a better relationship with your body, mind and soul.
Diet culture, however, tells us we need a different restrictive plan for every stage, but the truth is, you don’t. Intuitive Eating gives you a flexible way to adapt to changes without calorie counting, food rules, or guilt.
Let's explore how intuitive eating can support women throughout their journey.
Adolescence
Teens are growing and discovering themselves, both physically and emotionally. It's a stage of identity, values, and self-worth.
At this age, we are like sponges, absorbing all the messages and information we hear and see around us. Being a teenager often means standing in front of the mirror, comparing yourself to classmates, celebrities, or influencers whose bodies look impossibly flawless. For many, this is the stage where body dissatisfaction begins.
Unfortunately, with all the diet culture messages out there, the peer pressure, body image concerns, and societal standards, the inner talk is loud and strong and can impact eating behaviours and self-esteem. Restrictive diets, skipping meals, or “clean eating” trends can easily sneak in.
How Intuitive Eating can support adolescence:
Rejecting diet culture: It empowers teens to challenge societal pressures and embrace that bodies are meant to grow and change, promoting body acceptance and self-compassion.
Body awareness: It shifts the focus from external rules to internal cues, encouraging teens to honour hunger and fullness, a critical skill for lifelong well-being.
Empowerment through function: Intuitive Eating shifts the conversation from how food affects appearance to what it does for them - providing energy, focus, and strength for school, sports, and life.
Actionable tips for teens (and parents):
Keep meals flexible and enjoyable: Normalise changing appetites, late-night snacks, and high-sugar foods as part of this stage. Focus on enjoying a balanced variety and pleasure when eating, rather than policing yourself.
Create a neutral food environment: Avoid using "good" vs. "bad" food labels at home. All foods can fit.
Encourage joyful movement: Shift the language of exercise away from weight loss or punishment toward activities that genuinely feel fun and energising, such as dancing, swimming, or walking with friends.
Early Adulthood
Early adulthood is often the time of busy schedules, first jobs, universities, relationships, late nights, and social eating.
This stage often comes with new freedoms but also new pressures. Suddenly, you’re making your own food choices, managing tight shopping budgets, juggling deadlines, and trying to balance social life with self-care. Food becomes tied to convenience, quick fixes, and sometimes comfort. Add to that the diet culture noise: “summer body” talk, fitness influencers, endless health trends, and the subtle (or not-so-subtle) message that success is linked to being slim, toned, and in control.
For many women, this is the time when restrictive patterns deepen: skipping meals to “save calories” for drinks later, overexercising after a night out, or cycling between restriction and overeating. The pressure to “have it all together” often spills over into food and body image.
How Intuitive Eating can support early adulthood:
Unconditional permission to eat: It builds resilience against strict food rules, dissolving the guilt that follows social eating or perceived “slip-ups.”
Health beyond appearance: Intuitive Eating helps young women separate genuine health from fleeting appearance goals, focusing on how food choices affect energy, concentration, and mood under pressure.
Flexible structure: It encourages gentle nutrition; planning nourishing meals when possible (like affordable, balanced rice bowls, pasta, or wraps) without stressing when things don't go perfectly.
Actionable tips for the early adulthood stage:
Snack smart, not restrictive. Keep easy, grab-and-go options (nuts, fruit, hard-boiled eggs) available. This prevents the "I skipped lunch and now I'm starving" cycle that often leads to chaotic eating.
Hydration matters. Prioritise water intake. Staying hydrated supports concentration, digestion, and mood, countering the dehydrating effects of high caffeine or alcohol use.
Movement for sanity, not size. View movement (walking, cycling, a dance class) as a mental reset and energy boost, not a caloric obligation or punishment.
Fertility
Women are often flooded with advice when trying to conceive: eat this, avoid that, take these supplements, cut out caffeine, limit alcohol. While some of this information can be helpful, it can also become overwhelming and stressful, especially if conception doesn’t happen right away. The subtle message is that fertility depends solely on what you eat or how much you weigh, which creates guilt, anxiety, and pressure.
How Intuitive Eating can support during fertility:
Nourishment without restriction: Intuitive Eating shifts the focus from tracking every bite to choosing foods that support energy, hormone balance, and overall well-being, a practice called gentle nutrition.
Stress reduction: Letting go of rigid diet rules actively reduces stress, which in turn can positively support hormone balance and overall well-being.
Responding to cues: Intuitive Eating teaches you to honour your body's specific needs from the intense fatigue and food aversions of early pregnancy to the increased hunger and specific cravings of later stages.
Actionable tips during fertility:
Steady nourishment: Regular meals with complex carbs, lean proteins, healthy fats, and colourful vegetables can support stable hormones.
Gentle curiosity: If you notice certain foods or patterns affect your cycle, energy, or digestion, reflect without judgment.
Stress reduction: Create space daily; journaling, breathing exercises, and gentle movement can be great tools to relieve tension.
Let go of extremes. Obsessing over food only adds stress. Flexibility supports both body and mind during this emotionally charged stage. If “diet advice” around fertility becomes another stressor, pause and reframe.
Pregnancy
Pregnancy brings a lot of changes, both physically and emotionally. It is often portrayed as a time when women “have to eat perfectly” or “watch their weight,” which can create stress and guilt around food.
Intuitive eating takes away that pressure. It shifts the focus to listening to your body and meeting its changing needs with compassion. Hunger, cravings, and energy levels can fluctuate daily, and that’s normal. Honouring those cues supports both you and your baby.
How Intuitive Eating can support the pregnancy stage:
Gentle movement like walking, swimming, or prenatal yoga can ease stress and support sleep, but always tune in to energy levels.
Self-care: Snacks and comfort foods are not indulgences; they’re part of caring for yourself. Same with rest - it is as important as food. Listen to your body’s cues for naps, slower days, or downtime.
Postpartum support: Helps navigate emotional eating and energy needs without rigid plans.
Tips for the pregnancy stage:
Prioritise variety over perfection. Aim for a colourful plate with fruit, vegetables, whole grains, protein (beans, lentils, eggs, fish, chicken, tofu), and healthy fats (avocado, olive oil, nuts).
Protein matters. Try to include a source with each meal; it helps with energy, tissue growth, and keeping hunger steady.
Don’t fear carbs. Whole grains, oats, potatoes, rice, and fruit provide steady fuel. Pairing carbs with protein or fat helps balance blood sugar and keeps you fuller for longer.
Gentle hydration. Water is key for digestion and circulation. Carry a bottle and sip throughout the day. If plain water feels boring, infuse it with lemon, cucumber, or berries.
Small, frequent meals. If nausea or reflux makes eating harder, smaller meals/snacks spaced through the day can be easier to manage than three large meals.
Respond to cravings with curiosity. Sometimes cravings signal a need (like salty foods when you need more fluids or electrolytes). Other times, they’re about comfort. Both are okay; food is more than just fuel.
Perimenopause & Menopause
Your body is changing and not always in ways that feel gentle or predictable. Hormones start shifting, appetite can change, and symptoms like hot flashes, sleep changes, and mood swings may appear. In this environment, listening to hunger and fullness can feel confusing or even impossible.
Intuitive eating doesn’t require perfection here. It offers a framework of permission, patience, and trust with your body, even when your body is changing dramatically.
How Intuitive Eating can support the perimenopause & menopause stages :
Rejecting diet culture at a vulnerable stage. When society tells you that midlife weight gain is a “failure,” Intuitive Eating reminds you that health is not about shrinking your body but supporting it. This shift helps protect mental well-being and reduces the shame spiral that often drives restrictive dieting.
Permission to eat and rest. Fatigue, poor sleep, and stress may make you hungrier or crave comfort foods. Intuitive Eating reframes this as information, not failure. Instead of guilt, you can ask: What is my body asking for?
Rebuilding trust with fluctuating cues. When hot flashes or sleep loss mask hunger and fullness signals, Intuitive Eating encourages you to use curiosity and gentle structure (like regular meals and snacks) to support your body until cues feel clearer.
Movement for resilience. The Intuitive Eating principle of joyful movement is especially powerful here: focusing on strength, energy, bone health, and stress relief rather than using exercise as punishment.
Compassion in body changes. Menopause often brings shifts in shape, especially around the belly. Intuitive Eating helps you honour the body you have now, supporting dignity and respect instead of fighting against natural changes.
Tips for these stages:
Use a gentle structure. Because attunement is more fragile now, having meals or snacks at somewhat regular times (but with flexibility) can help your body recalibrate. Use planning rather than rigid policing.
Engage movement you love. Resistance training, walking, yoga, and strength-based work help preserve lean mass, support bone density, and improve insulin sensitivity.
Prioritise sleep and stress management. Because attunement is so influenced by external stressors, working on sleep hygiene, relaxation, journaling, breathwork, or other soothing practices can help bring back clarity.
Be gentle with fluctuations. Listen when your appetite is lower (some days it will be), or when cravings rise (your body may be calling for comfort or energy). Let curiosity, not judgment, guide adjustments.
Later Life
Reaching the age of 65 and beyond often brings societal expectations of wisdom, contentment, and acceptance. Many assume that by this stage, women have reconciled with their bodies, shedding the insecurities of youth. However, research reveals a different reality: body dissatisfaction remains prevalent among older women, influenced by a complex interplay of societal pressures, media portrayals, and internalised ideals.
The ageing process also involves more than physical changes; it encompasses a sense of loss—loss of vitality, appearance, and sometimes identity. This grief can manifest as a desire to reclaim the bodies of their youth, leading to dissatisfaction with the present self.
How Intuitive Eating can support in later life stage:
Reconnecting with internal cues: Intuitive Eating emphasises listening to hunger and fullness signals, promoting a balanced relationship with food that doesn't rely on societal standards.
Challenging societal norms: Intuitive Eating encourages women to question and reject societal beauty standards, fostering a sense of body autonomy and acceptance.
Embracing body diversity: Recognising that bodies come in various shapes and sizes, IE supports the idea that health and beauty are not confined to a particular look.
Fostering self-compassion: Intuitive Eating promotes self-kindness, helping women navigate the emotional complexities of ageing and body image with empathy.
Tips for this stage:
Cultivate mindful eating practices: Engage in eating practices that honour hunger and fullness cues, promoting a balanced relationship with food.
Challenge societal beauty standards: Reflect on and question societal ideals of beauty, recognising the value in diverse body types and appearances.
Engage in joyful movement: Participate in physical activities that bring joy and enhance well-being, rather than focusing solely on appearance.
Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself, acknowledging the natural changes that come with ageing and embracing them with grace.
Seek supportive communities: Connect with groups or individuals who promote body positivity and acceptance, providing mutual support and encouragement.
Every chapter of a woman’s life comes with its own challenges, joys, and transitions. From teenage years shaped by outside pressures, to pregnancy, perimenopause, and beyond, the relationship with food and body can shift in unexpected ways.
Intuitive Eating is not about achieving a “perfect” way of eating or chasing a body ideal; it’s about learning to listen, respond, and care for yourself with respect and compassion, no matter what stage you are in.
For some women, it means healing from years of dieting and guilt. For others, it’s about finding peace in a body that looks or feels different than it once did. And for many, it’s about letting go of external rules and trusting that your body is wise enough to guide you.
If there’s one thread running through all these stages, it’s this: you don’t have to fight with your body. You can choose to nourish it, respect it, and create a gentler relationship with food that allows you to live more fully, without shame, without fear, and without restriction.
Further Reading:
Neumark-Sztainer, D., et al. Intuitive eating and adolescents: Associations with mental health, disordered eating, and weight. National Library of Medicine (PMC)
Mayo Clinic Staff. Pregnancy nutrition: Healthy-eating basics. Mayo Clinic
Tylka, T. L., et al. Intuitive eating, disordered eating, and body image in midlife women. ScienceDirect
Registered Dietitian, The Menopause Nutritionist. The truth about Intuitive Eating and menopause. The Menopause Nutritionist
Webb, J. B., et al. Body image and ageing in women: A review of the literature. ScienceDirect
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